Being FIERCE is not about physical strength or high levels of power in the boardroom. No, it is about being a powerful decision-maker, especially when it comes to decisions that will influence our behavior and affect our families. Decisions about how you’re going to act in the next five minutes in order to stay on track towards your goals.
Every minute of every day, every decision we make and every action we take set into motion a ripple effect. Our actions shape the decisions others make and it shapes our futures.
As mothers, in busy households, we are often tired. We don’t always have the patience to listen to the same story for the fifteenth time or answer why the sky is blue for the umpteenth time in the last hour. We may not feel up to dealing with teenage tantrums. But listening to our children is what shapes our relationships and them as people.
That’s one of the many ways in which my FIERCE method has helped me and many others. Let’s recap:
❖ Focused breath: take a deep breath, face fear, find the fire and focus
❖ Identify one goal; think about what is required to achieve the goal
❖ Examine barriers to the goal
❖ Reflect and visualize your truths;co-create your own reality
❖ Courage; recognize that you have the courage
❖ Engage – take action
Breathe, Focus, Action
Modern science has proven the ancient wisdom of deep breathing and how it can negate anxiety. When we are anxious, we cannot think clearly.
When faced with a situation that brings out any negative emotions in you, BREATHE.
Inhale for a count of seven while centering your thoughts, and breathe out for eleven. Repeat this process at least three times and you should feel much calmer.
Sometimes, we can only muster one thing at a time and that’s all right. Just breathe…
When you feel the negative emotions dissipate through the deep breathing, it is time to FOCUS.
Negative events occur to take us off track – to distract us from our goals and that’s why we need to be fierce in those moments. You can choose to let events run your emotions and take your life off track, or you can stop, breathe, focus, and action.
Focus on your goals – or even one goal. Even if your goal is to not tell your kids to shut up. Even if your goal is to make it to bed without a melt down. Just focus on your goals, and…
What one action will bring you closer to your goal? What can you do in the next five minutes to make progress towards your goal?
Using Breathe, Focus, Action in Everyday Life
Have you ever pushed so hard to make something happen, but circumstances just would not budge? Then, you felt as though you might just give up, and the moment you stopped pushing, you experienced a breakthrough.
Here are some of the best places in which you can use Breathe, Focus, Action:
1. At work, before you embark on a scary new project – Breathe, Focus, Action.
2. At home, dealing with family issues – Breathe, Focus, Action.
3. In social situations, use Breathe, Focus, Action before you jump to conclusions, join in the gossip or get angry.
4. When trying to make something work, but you’re faced with too many obstacles – Breathe, Focus, Action.
The aim of Breathe, Focus, Action is to empower you to make informed decisions and a positive impact in your life and that of others. How will you use Breathe, Focus, Action today?